Confession: I’ve binge-watched Friends at least a dozen times. It’s my absolute favorite TV show of all time and whenever I rewatch it, I go to my happy place. If I had one wish, I’d wish that I could watch Friends for the first time again. Well, I’d ask for a million dollars, but you get the point.

However, it’s not just the comedy and the on-screen chemistry of the characters that draws me in. I have learned a lot from Friends, especially as a young adult trying to find my way in the world.

So, here are 6 lessons I learned from Friends that help me with that whole adulting thing.

6. Friends are the family you choose

This is a fairly obvious one but this has really helped me be more open to social interactions. The friends in Friends were always there for each other. They celebrated the holidays, took trips and even mourned each other’s losses.

As an introvert, my instinctual response to socializing is to shut off and shut-in. But seeing how 6 people found a home away from home and a group of people who share their strongest and weakest moments, and everything in between, with each other, I have had an awakening of sorts. Now, I have a group of friends I can truly rely on to be there for me.

We don’t have a choice in who our family is but we can pick and choose our friends and make a new family.

5. If you don’t have a plan in life, that’s ok

Some people have their entire lives figured out. Others don’t even have a ‘pla’. But, sometimes, you don’t need one.

Compare that moment from season 1 when Monica, Rachel and Phoebe established that they did not have a plan to season 10 and see how much they figured out along the way. As long as you’re determined and you know what you want out of life, you don’t need a plan. You will figure it out and that’s perfectly okay.

4. You’re never too old to enjoy life

The friends in Friends always have fun. They enjoy the little things in life, whether it’s stuffing packing peanuts in your pants or playing football for the Geller cup. Life’s too short to be just serious business all the time. We need to learn to let loose every now and then and just enjoy life.

This isn’t a lesson that I necessarily had to learn but Friends sure has reinforced this in me. Now, I never miss an opportunity to have fun.

3. Don’t look for love, let it find you

Let’s be honest. We did not see Chandler and Monica coming. They were an unexpected couple that found love in each other when they needed it the most. Chandler thought he would have to get a snake and he would die alone. Far from it.

The love Chandler and Monica have is so pure and authentic, and they didn’t force it to happen. It just happened. Sometimes, the more we look for something, the further away it gets from us. Kind of like a reverse Chinese finger trap.

If I don’t find love like Chandler’s and Monica’s, it’s not worth it.

2. Forgiveness is always easier than holding a grudge

People will always do you wrong. Such is life. Of course, you will feel strongly about it for a while but eventually, it’s much lighter on ourselves to just forgive and move on. Holding a grudge only weighs you down.

One of the most touching moments of the series was when Joey let Chandler out of the box to go chase Kathy. Joey showed us in that moment that, even though Chandler had hurt him, his friendship was more important to Joey. It was easier for him to forgive Chandler in that moment rather than get back at him for doing him wrong.

I aspire to be like Joey one day.

1. It’s never too late to start over

In more ways than one, Rachel was the main character of the show and she taught me the most important lesson. She ran out on her wedding, got one of those job things and practically started her life over from nothing. And she worked it out.

She paid her dues and got her dream job, and she went from daddy’s spoiled little princess to her own, independent woman. Rachel is the definition of self-made. And there’s a very valuable lesson there.

There will be several moments in our lives that show us that we might not be living to the fullest. Each one of those moments is an opportunity to completely turn our lives around. And we can. Rachel showed us how.

So, there you have it. Next time you binge Friends for the laughs, might also want to take a few notes. There’s plenty to learn there.